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Akhlaq — good character

A child can memorise surahs and still be unkind. Akhlaq is the other half of the deen: how we speak, how we treat our parents, how we handle anger and how we care for animals. Each lesson ends with one action to try before the next one.

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Sidq · ages 5-7

Always tell the truth

Truthfulness takes you to good, and good takes you to Paradise. Lying does the opposite — even the small lies that feel harmless.

  1. Truth leads to good

    One honest answer keeps you out of ten problems later.

  2. No 'small' lies

    Joking lies, exam lies and 'I already did it' lies all count.

  3. Own up fast

    Admitting a mistake straight away is braver — and easier — than covering it.

  4. Keep promises

    Saying you will do something is a kind of truth. Do it or don't say it.

  5. Be honest with Allah

    Duas are more sincere when you stop pretending, even to yourself.

Surah Al-Ahzaab · 33:70

يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوا۟ ٱتَّقُوا۟ ٱللَّهَ وَقُولُوا۟ قَوْلًۭا سَدِيدًۭا

Yaaa aiyuhal lazeena aamanut taqul laaha wa qooloo qawlan sadeedaa

“O you who have believed, fear Allah and speak words of appropriate justice.”

Surah At-Tawba · 9:119

يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوا۟ ٱتَّقُوا۟ ٱللَّهَ وَكُونُوا۟ مَعَ ٱلصَّٰدِقِينَ

Yaaa aiyuhal lazeena aamanut taqul laaha wa koonoo ma'as saadiqeen

“O you who have believed, fear Allah and be with those who are true.”

“Truthfulness leads to righteousness, and righteousness leads to Paradise.”

Sahih al-Bukhari 6094

Do this before next time

Go one whole day without a single lie — including jokes that are not true.

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Birr al-walidayn · ages 5-7

Your parents come first

Allah puts kindness to parents right after worshipping Him. Not shouting, not sighing, not rolling your eyes — and making dua for them.

  1. Straight after Allah

    The Qur'an mentions being good to parents immediately after worshipping Allah alone.

  2. Not even 'uff'

    Allah tells us not to say even a word of annoyance to them.

  3. Mothers three times

    The Prophet ﷺ named the mother three times before the father when asked who deserves the most kindness.

  4. Help without being asked

    Clearing the table before anyone tells you is worship.

  5. Dua for them

    Ask Allah to be merciful to them, as they were merciful to you when you were small.

Surah Al-Israa · 17:23

۞ وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوٓا۟ إِلَّآ إِيَّاهُ وَبِٱلْوَٰلِدَيْنِ إِحْسَٰنًا ۚ إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ ٱلْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَآ أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَآ أُفٍّۢ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلًۭا كَرِيمًۭا

Wa qadaa Rabbuka allaa ta'budooo illaaa iyyaahu wa bilwaalidaini ihsaanaa; immaa yablughanna 'indakal kibara ahaduhumaaa aw kilaahumaa falaa taqul lahumaaa uffinw wa laa tanharhumaa wa qullahumaa qawlan kareemaa

“And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], "uff," and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word.”

Surah Al-Israa · 17:24

وَٱخْفِضْ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ ٱلذُّلِّ مِنَ ٱلرَّحْمَةِ وَقُل رَّبِّ ٱرْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِى صَغِيرًۭا

Wakhfid lahumaa janaahaz zulli minar rahmati wa qur Rabbir hamhumaa kamaa rabbayaanee sagheera

“And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, "My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small."”

“A man asked the Prophet ﷺ who deserved his good treatment most; he said: your mother, then your mother, then your mother, then your father.”

Sahih al-Bukhari 5971

Memorise this

رَّبِّ ٱرْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِى صَغِيرًۭا

Rabbir hamhuma kama rabbayani saghira

My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up when I was small.

Qur'an 17:24.

Do this before next time

Do one job for your parents today without being asked, and say the dua of 17:24 for them.

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Rahmah · ages 5-7

Mercy to every living thing

Being merciful is not softness — it is how you earn Allah's mercy. That includes younger siblings, animals, and people nobody else is kind to.

  1. Mercy earns mercy

    Be merciful to those on earth and the One above the heavens will be merciful to you.

  2. Animals count

    A woman was forgiven for giving water to a thirsty dog; another was punished for starving a cat.

  3. Younger children

    The Prophet ﷺ played with children, carried them, and never shamed them.

  4. Neighbours

    Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should be good to his neighbour.

  5. No hitting or teasing

    Making someone smaller than you afraid is never strength.

“The merciful are shown mercy by Ar-Rahman. Be merciful on the earth, and you will be shown mercy by the One above the heavens.”

Jami' at-Tirmidhi 1924

“A lady was punished because of a cat which she had imprisoned till it died, for she neither gave it food nor water.”

Sahih al-Bukhari 3482

Do this before next time

Put out water for birds, or do one kind thing for the youngest person in your house.

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Speech · ages 8-11

Guard your tongue

Most of the trouble people get into starts with something they said. Islam has a simple rule: say something good, or say nothing.

  1. Good or silent

    Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should speak good or keep quiet.

  2. No backbiting

    Talking about someone behind their back is described in the Qur'an in the strongest terms.

  3. No spying or nicknames

    Do not hunt for people's faults or call anyone by names that hurt.

  4. Do not spread it

    Passing on a rumour makes you part of it, even if you did not start it.

  5. Say the good thing

    Praise, thanks and encouragement are also things the tongue can do.

Surah Al-Hujuraat · 49:12

يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوا۟ ٱجْتَنِبُوا۟ كَثِيرًۭا مِّنَ ٱلظَّنِّ إِنَّ بَعْضَ ٱلظَّنِّ إِثْمٌۭ ۖ وَلَا تَجَسَّسُوا۟ وَلَا يَغْتَب بَّعْضُكُم بَعْضًا ۚ أَيُحِبُّ أَحَدُكُمْ أَن يَأْكُلَ لَحْمَ أَخِيهِ مَيْتًۭا فَكَرِهْتُمُوهُ ۚ وَٱتَّقُوا۟ ٱللَّهَ ۚ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ تَوَّابٌۭ رَّحِيمٌۭ

Yaaa ayyuhal lazeena aamanuj taniboo kaseeram minaz zanni inna ba'daz zanniismunw wa laa tajassasoo wa la yaghtab ba'dukum ba'daa; a yuhibbu ahadukum any yaakula lahma akheehi maitan fakarih tumooh; wattaqul laa; innal laaha tawwaabur Raheem

“O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it. And fear Allah; indeed, Allah is Accepting of repentance and Merciful.”

Surah Al-Hujuraat · 49:11

يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوا۟ لَا يَسْخَرْ قَوْمٌۭ مِّن قَوْمٍ عَسَىٰٓ أَن يَكُونُوا۟ خَيْرًۭا مِّنْهُمْ وَلَا نِسَآءٌۭ مِّن نِّسَآءٍ عَسَىٰٓ أَن يَكُنَّ خَيْرًۭا مِّنْهُنَّ ۖ وَلَا تَلْمِزُوٓا۟ أَنفُسَكُمْ وَلَا تَنَابَزُوا۟ بِٱلْأَلْقَٰبِ ۖ بِئْسَ ٱلِٱسْمُ ٱلْفُسُوقُ بَعْدَ ٱلْإِيمَٰنِ ۚ وَمَن لَّمْ يَتُبْ فَأُو۟لَٰٓئِكَ هُمُ ٱلظَّٰلِمُونَ

Yaaa ayyuhal lazeena aamanoo laa yaskhar qawmum min qawmin 'asaaa anyyakoonoo khairam minhum wa laa nisaaa'um min nisaaa'in 'Asaaa ay yakunna khairam minhunna wa laa talmizooo bil alqaab; bi'sal ismul fusooqu ba'dal eemaan; wa mal-lam yatub fa-ulaaa'ika humuz zaalimoon

“O you who have believed, let not a people ridicule [another] people; perhaps they may be better than them; nor let women ridicule [other] women; perhaps they may be better than them. And do not insult one another and do not call each other by [offensive] nicknames. Wretched is the name of disobedience after [one's] faith. And whoever does not repent - then it is those who are the wrongdoers.”

“Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him speak good or remain silent.”

Sahih al-Bukhari 6018

Do this before next time

Stop yourself once this week from repeating something about someone — and say something good instead.

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Sabr & shukr · ages 8-11

Patience and gratitude

A believer has two settings: when things are hard, sabr; when things are good, shukr. Both of them turn ordinary days into reward.

  1. Sabr is active

    Patience is not doing nothing — it is holding on, keeping going, and not complaining about Allah.

  2. Allah is with the patient

    The Qur'an tells us to seek help through patience and prayer.

  3. Shukr increases

    Allah promises to give more to those who are thankful.

  4. Count what you have

    Health, family, food, safety — say alhamdulillah for one of them by name every day.

  5. When you're angry

    Sit down, be quiet, make wudhu — the Prophet ﷺ taught these steps.

Surah Al-Baqara · 2:153

يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُوا۟ ٱسْتَعِينُوا۟ بِٱلصَّبْرِ وَٱلصَّلَوٰةِ ۚ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ مَعَ ٱلصَّٰبِرِينَ

Yaaa ayyuhal laazeena aamanus ta'eenoo bissabri was Salaah; innal laaha ma'as-saabireen

“O you who have believed, seek help through patience and prayer. Indeed, Allah is with the patient.”

Surah Ibrahim · 14:7

وَإِذْ تَأَذَّنَ رَبُّكُمْ لَئِن شَكَرْتُمْ لَأَزِيدَنَّكُمْ ۖ وَلَئِن كَفَرْتُمْ إِنَّ عَذَابِى لَشَدِيدٌۭ

Wa iz ta azzana Rabbukum la'in shakartum la azeedannakum wa la'in kafartum inn'azaabee lashadeed

“And [remember] when your Lord proclaimed, 'If you are grateful, I will surely increase you [in favor]; but if you deny, indeed, My punishment is severe.' "”

Surah Al-Baqara · 2:155

وَلَنَبْلُوَنَّكُم بِشَىْءٍۢ مِّنَ ٱلْخَوْفِ وَٱلْجُوعِ وَنَقْصٍۢ مِّنَ ٱلْأَمْوَٰلِ وَٱلْأَنفُسِ وَٱلثَّمَرَٰتِ ۗ وَبَشِّرِ ٱلصَّٰبِرِينَ

Wa lanablu wannakum bishai'im minal khawfi waljoo'i wa naqsim minal amwaali wal anfusi was samaraat; wa bashshiris saabireen

“And We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give good tidings to the patient,”

Surah Al-Baqara · 2:156

ٱلَّذِينَ إِذَآ أَصَٰبَتْهُم مُّصِيبَةٌۭ قَالُوٓا۟ إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّآ إِلَيْهِ رَٰجِعُونَ

Allazeena izaaa asaabathum museebatun qaalooo innaa lillaahi wa innaaa ilaihi raaji'oon

“Who, when disaster strikes them, say, "Indeed we belong to Allah, and indeed to Him we will return."”

Do this before next time

Write down three things you are grateful for tonight and thank Allah for each one by name.

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Taharah & haya · ages 8-11

Cleanliness and modesty

A Muslim's body, clothes and words are clean. Modesty — haya — is part of iman, and it means how we dress, look and behave.

  1. Cleanliness is half of faith

    The Prophet ﷺ said cleanliness is half of iman — it is that important.

  2. Wudhu habit

    Wudhu five times a day keeps you clean whether you feel like it or not.

  3. Teeth and body

    The miswak, washing after the toilet, clean clothes for the masjid — all sunnah.

  4. Haya

    Modesty is a branch of iman: covering properly, lowering the gaze, and keeping private things private.

  5. Clean spaces

    Do not litter, and leave a place better than you found it.

Surah An-Noor · 24:30

قُل لِّلْمُؤْمِنِينَ يَغُضُّوا۟ مِنْ أَبْصَٰرِهِمْ وَيَحْفَظُوا۟ فُرُوجَهُمْ ۚ ذَٰلِكَ أَزْكَىٰ لَهُمْ ۗ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ خَبِيرٌۢ بِمَا يَصْنَعُونَ

Qul lilmu' mineena yaghuuddoo min absaarihim wa yahfazoo furoojahum; zaalika azkaa lahum; innallaaha khabeerum bimaa yasna'oon

“Tell the believing men to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts. That is purer for them. Indeed, Allah is Acquainted with what they do.”

Surah An-Noor · 24:31

وَقُل لِّلْمُؤْمِنَٰتِ يَغْضُضْنَ مِنْ أَبْصَٰرِهِنَّ وَيَحْفَظْنَ فُرُوجَهُنَّ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا مَا ظَهَرَ مِنْهَا ۖ وَلْيَضْرِبْنَ بِخُمُرِهِنَّ عَلَىٰ جُيُوبِهِنَّ ۖ وَلَا يُبْدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا لِبُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ ءَابَآئِهِنَّ أَوْ ءَابَآءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَآئِهِنَّ أَوْ أَبْنَآءِ بُعُولَتِهِنَّ أَوْ إِخْوَٰنِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِىٓ إِخْوَٰنِهِنَّ أَوْ بَنِىٓ أَخَوَٰتِهِنَّ أَوْ نِسَآئِهِنَّ أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَٰنُهُنَّ أَوِ ٱلتَّٰبِعِينَ غَيْرِ أُو۟لِى ٱلْإِرْبَةِ مِنَ ٱلرِّجَالِ أَوِ ٱلطِّفْلِ ٱلَّذِينَ لَمْ يَظْهَرُوا۟ عَلَىٰ عَوْرَٰتِ ٱلنِّسَآءِ ۖ وَلَا يَضْرِبْنَ بِأَرْجُلِهِنَّ لِيُعْلَمَ مَا يُخْفِينَ مِن زِينَتِهِنَّ ۚ وَتُوبُوٓا۟ إِلَى ٱللَّهِ جَمِيعًا أَيُّهَ ٱلْمُؤْمِنُونَ لَعَلَّكُمْ تُفْلِحُونَ

Wa qul lilmu'minaati yaghdudna min absaarihinna wa yahfazna furoojahunna wa laa yubdeena zeenatahunna illaa maa zahara minhaa walyadribna bikhumurihinna 'alaa juyoobihinna wa laa yubdeena zeenatahunna illaa libu'oolatihinna aw aabaaa'i hinna aw aabaaa'i bu'oolati hinna aw abnaaa'ihinaa aw abnaaa'i bu'oolatihinnna aw ikhwaanihinnna aw baneee ikhwaanihinna aw banee akhawaatihinna aw nisaaa'i hinna aw maa malakat aimaanuhunna awit taabi'eena ghairi ilil irbati minar rijaali awit tiflillazeena lam yazharoo 'alaa 'awraatin nisaaa'i wala yadribnna bi arjulihinna min zeenatihinn; wa toobooo ilallaahi jammee'an aiyuhal mu'minoona la'allakum tuflihoon

“And tell the believing women to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts and not expose their adornment except that which [necessarily] appears thereof and to wrap [a portion of] their headcovers over their chests and not expose their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands' fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers, their brothers' sons, their sisters' sons, their women, that which their right hands possess, or those male attendants having no physical desire, or children who are not yet aware of the private aspects of women. And let them not stamp their feet to make known what they conceal of their adornment. And turn to Allah in repentance, all of you, O believers, that you might succeed.”

“Cleanliness is half of faith.”

Sahih Muslim 223

“Faith consists of more than sixty branches, and haya (modesty) is a branch of faith.”

Sahih al-Bukhari 9

Do this before next time

Make wudhu for every prayer today, and tidy one space you share with others.

Two clay houses side by side sharing a bowl of food over a low wall, with an olive tree between them

Ihsan to others · ages 8-11

Neighbours and orphans

Islam measures your character by how you treat the people closest to you and the people with least: your neighbour, and the orphan.

  1. Jibril kept mentioning neighbours

    The Prophet ﷺ said Jibril advised him about neighbours so much that he thought they would inherit.

  2. A neighbour is anyone nearby

    Muslim or not, next door or next desk — they have a right on you.

  3. Looking after an orphan

    The Prophet ﷺ said he and the one who cares for an orphan will be close together in Paradise, holding up two fingers.

  4. The Qur'an lists them together

    Worship Allah, and be good to parents, relatives, orphans, the needy and the neighbour.

  5. Never push down the weak

    The Qur'an tells the Prophet ﷺ directly not to oppress the orphan.

Surah An-Nisaa · 4:36

۞ وَٱعْبُدُوا۟ ٱللَّهَ وَلَا تُشْرِكُوا۟ بِهِۦ شَيْـًۭٔا ۖ وَبِٱلْوَٰلِدَيْنِ إِحْسَٰنًۭا وَبِذِى ٱلْقُرْبَىٰ وَٱلْيَتَٰمَىٰ وَٱلْمَسَٰكِينِ وَٱلْجَارِ ذِى ٱلْقُرْبَىٰ وَٱلْجَارِ ٱلْجُنُبِ وَٱلصَّاحِبِ بِٱلْجَنۢبِ وَٱبْنِ ٱلسَّبِيلِ وَمَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَٰنُكُمْ ۗ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ لَا يُحِبُّ مَن كَانَ مُخْتَالًۭا فَخُورًا

Wa'budul laaha wa laa tushrikoo bihee shai'anw wa bilwaalidaini ihsaananw wa bizil qurbaa walyataamaa walmasaakeeni waljaari zilqurbaa waljaaril junubi wassaahibi biljambi wabnis sabeeli wa maa malakat aimaanukum; innal laaha laa yuhibbu man kaana mukhtaalan fakhooraa

“Worship Allah and associate nothing with Him, and to parents do good, and to relatives, orphans, the needy, the near neighbor, the neighbor farther away, the companion at your side, the traveler, and those whom your right hands possess. Indeed, Allah does not like those who are self-deluding and boastful.”

Surah Ad-Dhuhaa · 93:9

فَأَمَّا ٱلْيَتِيمَ فَلَا تَقْهَرْ

Fa am mal yateema fala taqhar

“So as for the orphan, do not oppress [him].”

“Jibril continued to recommend me about treating neighbours kindly so much so that I thought he would order me to make them my heirs.”

Sahih al-Bukhari 6014

“I and the one who looks after an orphan will be like this in Paradise — showing his middle and index fingers.”

Sahih al-Bukhari 5304

Do this before next time

Do one useful thing for a neighbour this week — take something round, or help carry something in.

A clay kettle cooling on a green mat with steam rising into a small gold heart, a cushion beside it

Hilm & 'afw · ages 8-11

Anger and forgiveness

Real strength is not winning a fight — it is holding yourself back when you are angry, and forgiving afterwards.

  1. The strong person

    The Prophet ﷺ said the strong one is not the one who overcomes people, but the one who controls himself when angry.

  2. Cool down first

    Stop talking, sit down, drink water, make wudhu — then decide what to say.

  3. Forgive on purpose

    The Qur'an praises those who restrain anger and pardon people.

  4. Say sorry properly

    Name what you did, do not add excuses, and change the behaviour.

  5. Do not carry it

    Holding a grudge hurts you more than the person you are angry with.

Surah Aal-i-Imraan · 3:134

ٱلَّذِينَ يُنفِقُونَ فِى ٱلسَّرَّآءِ وَٱلضَّرَّآءِ وَٱلْكَٰظِمِينَ ٱلْغَيْظَ وَٱلْعَافِينَ عَنِ ٱلنَّاسِ ۗ وَٱللَّهُ يُحِبُّ ٱلْمُحْسِنِينَ

Allazeena yunfiqoona fissarraaa'i waddarraaa'i wal kaazimeenal ghaiza wal aafeena 'anin-naas; wallaahu yuhibbul muhsineen

“Who spend [in the cause of Allah] during ease and hardship and who restrain anger and who pardon the people - and Allah loves the doers of good;”

“The strong is not the one who overcomes the people by his strength, but the strong is the one who controls himself while in anger.”

Sahih al-Bukhari 6114

Do this before next time

Next time you feel angry, count to ten and sit down before you speak — then tell a parent how it went.

Every ayah on this page comes from the Tanzil Uthmani text of the Qur'an with the Sahih International translation, and every hadith carries its collection and number so you can check it yourself. Back to the learning path

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